Improving Your Interpersonal Relations Skills

Do you know how can you have a good relationship ? Good relationship is a word that easy to say but difficult to do. How would you like to influence other people to develop a more positive attitude toward you? How would you can use to improve your interpersonal relations with friends, family, coworkers, and employees ? These are some technique from Dale Carnegie’s book that you can pick for reference. Try it’s and see what you are to be !
1. Don’t criticize, judge, or complain about people.
People like to criticize or complain others rather than give a reward. Instead of telling people they’re doing something wrong, consider asking them questions to try to find out why they do what they do. Offer them an alternative in a way that comes across as trying to help. Show them how doing things the way you would like them done can benefit them.
2. Appreciate people.
If you start appreciating the good things others are doing, they are much more likely to give you more good things to appreciate. Make sure that your appreciation are from your heart.
3. Solve your own problems by solving other people’s problems.
If you would like someone to do something or act in a certain way, try to figure out how you want might benefit him or her. Instead of telling your suggestion to others, ask them questions to find out what problems they might have. Once you know those issues, you can then work with others to solve the problems together.
4. Be genuinely interested in others.
You’ll make more friends by being interested in others than you ever will by trying to get people to be interested in you. Most people’s favorite subject is themselves. Use this to your advantage. Become genuinely interested in other people. Ask them questions. Talk to them about things they’re interested in. Put the focus on them. You’ll quickly gain their friendship.
5. Smile.
Smiles are infectious. They make others feel warm inside and warmer toward you. Force yourself to do it if you have to because it will ultimately make you feel better too. Try it right now: just smile!
6. Be a good listener.
This goes back to the principle of focusing on the other person. Listen more than you speak and encourage others to talk about themselves and you’ll quickly develop good interpersonal relations with them.
7. Make others feel important.
If someone is important to you in any way, tell them so! People like to feel important. Give them what they want and they will love you for it. Again, it’s important that you do this with sincerity. People can easily tell when you’re just dishing something out for personal gain. Mean it when you say it.
8. Avoid arguing, and understand that you really aren’t always right.
When two people argue, neither one is really listening to the other. You’ll be better off to try and remain calm and listen to the other person’s thoughts. Then take some time to consider them. Maybe you’re not right! And if you are right, telling someone else will only make them resentful. Be tactful in your approach and consider the other person’s feelings. Try asking yourself how you would feel in their situation.
9. If you’re wrong, admit it.
You can really harm your interpersonal relations if you refuse to admit when you’re wrong. It’s frustrating for others and it damages their trust in you. If you’re wrong, or you made a mistake, admit it. This will quickly clear the air and allow everyone to move on.
10. Save your anger.
If you approach someone in anger, their defenses immediately go up and your discussion will go nowhere. If you have a problem with someone that needs to be sorted out, approach that person calmly. Ask them if you can sit down with them to work on an amicable solution for both of you. Everyone thinks more clearly when they’re calm.
11. Suggest, don’t tell.
Interpersonal relations are strained when you tell someone how to do something or how to think. People like to come up with their own beliefs or opinions of how to do things. Instead, try offering suggestions. Suggestions leave people more open to considering your idea rather than stubbornly defending their position.

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